It was a very dark time on a personal level. The exterior was all smiles, yet my heart was dying. Many people talk about changing their lives, getting rid of bad habits or saying “just gonna do me”. Maybe they are trying to let go of someone they loved or just want to be loved.
Set a plan in writing. If the plan to change takes 6 months, a year or five years, that’s okay. But have a plan. Update it as you go. But stick to the plan. Kobe Bryant during every off season was known to practice daily making 800 shots a day. Not taking, making.
I see and meet so many people who deserve so much more in their life yet, they sit back and contemplate life as I did. I shed a tear or two that night with my coffee and laptop in front of me and none of the 40 people in that Bigby’s in East Lansing noticed and even if they had, they wouldn’t care. Why should they? On that night I surrounded myself with people who didn’t know me.
Is this what people do? Surround yourselves with folks who know you but don’t really, really know you? Then when obstacles show up, you feel as though you are the only one going through this. I was sad that night, not lonely. But I didn’t bother to put anyone next to me who would encourage me or remind me that I could get past this time in my life. We really aren’t alone folks.
We ourselves deserve so much more than life has given us. Why is it so many of us choose to “stand” with those that do nothing for us instead of spending time with people who will lift us up, encourage us and yes love us for who we are?
My own brother Fabian reminded me that night that it’s God’s expectations of us rather than our own that matter most. Sometimes, we just need to put the right people in our life to help us get what we deserve in our life. God never intended for us to be sad or without. But we have to make the first move. Start positioning yourself to be around those who truly care about you. So, what’s your next move? ~ off my soapbox.
